The Dangers of Using “I come with a Lot” as a Shield Against Personal Growth in Relationships

In every relationship, whether romantic, familial, or platonic, individuals bring a unique mix of experiences, baggage, and perspectives. This dynamic can sometimes be complicated, and as such, many people defend certain behaviors by saying, “I come with a lot.” While it’s essential to recognize and understand personal challenges, using them as an excuse to avoid […]

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Let’s Reframe “Keeping it Real” and Separate it from “Authenticity”

When I think about the narratives that surround black men in America, two terms often arise: “keeping it real” and “authenticity.” While at a glance, they may appear synonymous, I argue that these are two vastly different concepts, and it’s high time we separate the two for the betterment of our collective well-being. To understand […]

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