When I think about the narratives that surround black men in America, two terms often arise: “keeping it real” and “authenticity.” While at a glance, they may appear synonymous, I argue that these are two vastly different concepts, and it’s high time we separate the two for the betterment of our collective well-being.
To understand why, let’s first trace back the origins and implications of these terms.
“Keeping it Real” vs. Authenticity
“Keeping it real” originated within the hip-hop community and rapidly permeated the broader black culture. While it began as a mantra to stay true to oneself, it has evolved into an unspoken obligation to remain connected to the struggles and realities of the “street.” However, its current incarnation can be a double-edged sword.
On the one hand, it reminds us never to forget our roots. On the other, it subtly pushes black men to perpetually associate themselves with certain stereotypes — stereotypes that, unfortunately, aren’t always positive. Dr. Elijah Anderson, a sociologist from Yale University, has written extensively about the nuances of black identity in America, particularly the navigation between the “street” and “decent” orientations. The constant balancing act between these two worlds is a testament to the intricate pressures black men face daily.
Authenticity, meanwhile, is the genuine expression of one’s beliefs, desires, and self. It doesn’t cater to external pressures or archetypes. Authenticity is an inner compass, guiding us to honor our true selves.
The Slippery Slope of “Keeping it Real”
“Keeping it real,” while well-intentioned, can lead black men down a perilous path. A study by Dr. Janelle R. Goodwill and colleagues from the University of Michigan found that the pressure to conform to certain masculine ideals can be psychologically taxing. These ideals can encompass anything from showing no emotion to engaging in risky behaviors to “prove” one’s manhood or “street cred.”
By surrendering to these pressures, we risk building our identities on shaky foundations. We start defining ourselves not by who we truly are, but by what the world expects us to be. Over time, this can lead to a subtle indoctrination of self-hate. The essence of who we are becomes clouded by the incessant need to prove ourselves to external entities.
Moreover, studies like one from the American Psychological Association have shown that consistently suppressing one’s true feelings and conforming to societal expectations can lead to increased stress, anxiety, and even depressive symptoms.
Embracing Authenticity
Rather than entangling ourselves in the web of “keeping it real,” we must prioritize authenticity. In 2011, a study from Harvard Business School led by Professor Francesca Gino established that those who remain true to themselves — that is, authentic — tend to have higher self-esteem, more job satisfaction, and are generally happier.
By embracing authenticity, we embrace our individual journeys. Our experiences as black men in America are neither monolithic nor stagnant. Some of us hail from bustling cities, others from tranquil suburbs. Some may resonate with the grit of the streets, while others connect more with boardrooms and tech startups. Our collective tapestry is rich, varied, and ever-evolving.
The Path Forward
As a 44-year-old black male entrepreneur, my life has been a blend of various experiences. I’ve witnessed the challenges of “keeping it real” and have been humbled by the power of authenticity. It’s essential to recognize that staying true to oneself doesn’t mean alienating our roots. Instead, it means understanding that our roots are just a part of a grander, multifaceted identity.
For the prosperity and mental well-being of black men in America, it’s crucial to challenge and dissect these narratives. By doing so, we can break free from the chains of societal expectations and step into a world where our worth is not dictated by external voices but by the authentic rhythm of our hearts.
Dr. Leo “Stix” Croft