TGIDS: Thank God I Didn’t Settle (And the Power of One Cross Adjustment)
Today happens to be Friday, and it made me think of TGIF—but with a twist. For some reason, that thought led me to reflect on my life and how thankful I am that I didn’t settle, allowing me to pursue the things I was truly passionate about.
In relationships, I made some tough choices—some of which led to heartbreak—because the connection wasn’t serving me or my vision. And that’s how I came up with TGIDS: Thank God I Didn’t Settle.
But here’s the thing—not settling isn’t always about grand gestures or drastic life changes. Sometimes, it’s just about making one small adjustment. One decision. One refusal. One moment where you choose differently. That’s what I call the One Cross Adjustment—a minor but powerful shift that changes everything.
Because let’s be real: Most people don’t ruin their lives in one big decision. They do it in small, quiet moments where they accept less than they should.
Settling in Relationships: The One Cross Adjustment of Walking Away
Ever been in a relationship that wasn’t bad per se, but something deep down told you it wasn’t right either? That’s where most people settle. They think, Well, it’s not terrible… and before they know it, years have passed in a relationship that’s comfortable but not fulfilling.
But the One Cross Adjustment? That’s the moment you realize not bad isn’t the same as good. That’s when you choose to walk away, even when it’s hard, because you know there’s something better out there. It’s that single moment where you say, I deserve more than just okay.
TGIDS. Thank God I Didn’t Settle for just being tolerated when I deserved to be celebrated.
Settling in Friendships: The One Cross Adjustment of Saying No
Friendships are tricky. We hold onto people out of history, out of guilt, out of obligation. But sometimes, the best thing you can do is make a One Cross Adjustment and let go.
Maybe it’s the moment you stop answering calls from that friend who only reaches out when they need something. Maybe it’s deciding to stop shrinking yourself around people who don’t support your growth. That one decision—to say no, to set a boundary, to walk away—can completely shift the energy in your life.
TGIDS. Thank God I Didn’t Settle for friendships that drained me instead of filling me.
Settling in Your Environment: The One Cross Adjustment of Moving On
Where you are—physically, emotionally, mentally—can either nurture you or stifle you. People stay in dead-end jobs, stagnant cities, and toxic spaces because the idea of leaving feels overwhelming. But what if you didn’t have to change everything all at once? What if all it took was one adjustment?
Maybe it’s updating your resume. Maybe it’s visiting a new city just to see what’s out there. Maybe it’s deciding to stop hanging out in places that bring out the worst in you. That one cross adjustment—that one step—could be the shift that gets you unstuck.
TGIDS. Thank God I Didn’t Settle for a life where I was just existing instead of living.
Settling in Your Ambitions: The One Cross Adjustment of Taking the First Step
Settling isn’t just about accepting less from other people—it’s about accepting less from yourself. You have dreams. Big ones. But every day, people kill their own ambitions with excuses disguised as logic.
“I’ll start when I have more time.”
“I don’t have the right connections.”
“What if I fail?”
The One Cross Adjustment here? Just start. Stop waiting for the perfect moment. The only difference between those who make it and those who don’t is that one group stopped talking and started doing. One small shift—sending that email, writing that first page, showing up to that event—can put you on a completely different path.
TGIDS. Thank God I Didn’t Settle for a life that didn’t challenge me.
Your One Cross Adjustment Moment Is Waiting
You don’t have to overhaul your entire life overnight. You just have to recognize the moments where settling starts—and choose differently.
- That moment when you accept bare minimum effort from a partner.
- That moment when you say yes to a friend out of obligation, not desire.
- That moment when you decide to stay in a situation that drains you.
Those are the crossroads. And that one cross adjustment—that small but intentional choice to demand more, expect better, and refuse to settle—can change your entire trajectory.
So here’s your challenge:
What’s the one adjustment you can make today to stop settling?
Because five years from now, you’re either going to look back with regret or with gratitude.
TGIDS. Thank God I Didn’t Settle.
